My husband and I got married on May 26, 2018. It’s been over two years and we have yet to go on our honeymoon. For the life of me, I have not been able to leave my kids for more than a day. I get the worst anxiety. Since everything with Ryker happened (read previous blog post) I have a hard time leaving them. Ryker has spent the night with my mother, one time in 4 years.

BUT, this is a year of change. We are searching for honeymoon destinations. Why now? Sometimes you have to put your marriage first. I have to look past my anxiety and live a little. Plus, we definitely need more time alone together. I value my marriage so much, and it’s something you HAVE to work at everyday. You have to make each other a priority. Do the little things for each other. Make life EASIER for each other.

Ryan will come home after a long day at work and take over the kids for a bit. Sometimes, he even makes dinner. If the girls don’t do their chores, he will automatically do the dishes for me. It doesn’t go overlooked. Babies and kids are exhausting and it’s nice to have a partner in life that makes life easier.

I’ve had to hire a babysitter just so we can go on date nights. My mom lives out of town but she comes when she can. Ryan’s mother is sick and not really available much right now. I have to say though, I’m excited to get more free time with my best friend and remember the relationship we had before kids came along. We are obsessed with our kids, but we are also obsessed with each other, and cherish our free time together.

We have been together 6 years now and are finding new ways to keep our relationship going strong. Oh yes, we fight. Rarely, these days, but we do. We are both very passionate about things and let our opinions be known. And that is okay. Everyone has disagreements. But you have to know when to pick your battles and when to let the stupid things go. He got lucky with a woman who forgives easily and I got lucky with him in the way that he will try to make me laugh 5 minutes after knowing he’s made me mad.

You have to cut toxic people out. Some people come along that will try to derail your marriage and will succeed if you let them. We’ve had our share of people trying to ruin our relationship from the day we met. And here we are, years later, with children, a home, and happier than ever.

I know this post is shorter than my other posts but I just wanted to make it simple.

Put your kids, God, and your marriage first, and you will continue to thrive. The struggles will no doubt come your way, but you can overcome them and see yourselves on the other side, even stronger than before.

Now, where should we go on our honeymoon? 🤪